Hey fam. Happy September! What’s it been, about a month since I checked in with you all? So much has changed in the past 30 days that I have barely been able to keep my wig on. I want to say I’ll be back to posting at my regular schedule starting the beginning of October. But the way my life is set up now? The best I can do is this 30-day catch up on all the new beginnings! Hold on to your seats.
New Beginning #1: I’m having another baby!
I suppose the biggest news is that yours truly is expecting Baby Button around March 12, 2016, which just happens to be the same due date as his/her big sister’s. We don’t know what we’re having yet. I just know I better not have that baby on Bean’s birthday. #Husbae is Team Boy, Bean is Team Sister-Baby, and me? I’m Team Quick and Easy Pregnancy. Forreal.
Button is largely the reason I’ve been ghost for the past month. Dealing with the fatigue of early pregnancy and chasing a toddler was just a bit much. I’m feeling a lot better these days, though.
New Beginning #2: We’re moving!
Remember when I was asking about things to do in and around DC? I wanted to do a recap post of my vacation, and then I took a few naps and woke up at the end of September. Sigh. Well, we did more than just visit. My husband finally defended his doctoral dissertation on September 27 and passed! We are ecstatic! #Husbae also accepted a position in Washington, DC, and we are in the process of relocating to Maryland.
No, I’m not ready for the cold. What are snow tires?!
While preparing to move this past month, we did the following:
- sold a bunch of our possessions
- sold our house
- sold a car
- gave away a crapton of things
- threw away a crapton of things
As of today, we are in between places to live while we get our living situation settled in the DC metro. #Prayfuhme. We sold our house (from listing to closing date) in about 7 weeks, and we are so thankful to have done so. (If you need a Realtor in the Atlanta area, our broker Dara Thomas was UH-MAZING and made the process so easy for us. Plus, she has a great name).
New Beginning#3: I cut (almost) all of my hair off!
I’ve been telling everybody I can’t be pregnant and have hair. That’s not a thing that’s going to happen. Since the baby isn’t going anywhere any time soon, I decided it was time for a change. I was inspired by YouTuber BeautyCutright to go edgy and bold. I didn’t cut my own hair, but my stylist Naeema Finley of Curlie Girlz Rock did a fantastic job with the cut and the color. I have no complaints!
New Beginning#4: New Job? Sorta. Kinda.
I’ve been doing some thinking over the past month about what it means to work just to pay bills as opposed to working at what you love. Because of our relocation I had to quit my job (no transfer possible). I, um, wasn’t really all that broken up about it. What I’d really like to do is freelance or work for a media company that will allow me to write like I do with Truly Tafakari.
Buuuut, I’m pregnant. I do not have a lot of confidence that a hiring manager or HR professional, no matter how illegal it is to discriminate, will see this belly and jump to hire me. Furthermore, FMLA often requires you to have a certain amount of time vested in the company in order to have paid maternity leave. There’s just no way. My husband is a little more optimistic. Even if I got a part-time job, I’d really just be working to pay for daycare. Ugh.
Can I be real honest with ya’ll, though? I’m in no hurry to sit back in somebody’s office. I’m just not. I am over working for the sake of working. #FirstWorldProblems yada yada, I know.
I’ve decided, at least for the next 6 months to a year, I’m going to be a hausfrau and take care of Bean and eventually little Button. I’m kinda excited about creating a curriculum for her to learn before she goes to pre-K, incorporating museum visits, and learning DC as a part of our studies together.
#Husbae and I made this decision because I really would like my next employment related move to be a career move. Not just a hop into another job to keep the lights on. If my family needs it, that’s what I’ll do. But as long as it makes more financial sense for me to become a stay-at-home mother, that looks like my path for the time being.
I have no delusions that this will be my grand entry to Writing Time Galore. On the contrary…I’m expecting to be just as tired, if not more so, and still having to cobble together writing time from the margins of my day.
Phew. So now you know why I’ve been mad ghost for the past few weeks. Sometimes I sat down at my laptop to write this and I just felt so overwhelmed and stressed out and tired and often discouraged. At this juncture, so much weight has been lifted off my shoulders. God has been good to me and I’m grateful to see the light at the end of this tunnel.
Trust me when I say I missed you all greatly! For those of you who follow me on Facebook, you know I’ve felt bad about not writing or posting on the blog. But doing this is something I truly love, and I don’t give up on love so easily. Thanks for sticking around.
What new beginnings are sprouting in your life? What are you looking forward to this fall? How do you keep your sanity during major life changes? And, if you live in or near the DC area, what’s the best part of living up Norf? Halp!