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10 Easy Steps I Take to Help Me Live My Best Life

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Why the KonMari Method Opens an Emotional Can of Worms

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On My Struggle to Honestly Treat the Labor of Motherhood as Work

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Review: “The Cooking Gene” Lovingly Charts the Way Home for Black Southern Cooks

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Unpopular Opinion: Why William is the Worst Character on “This Is Us”

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Yes, “Nice Guys” Commit Sexual Harassment, Too | #MeToo

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18 Reasons Why Black Americans Should Celebrate Haitian Flag Day

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In a Sunken Place: How My Husband Helped Save My Life Postpartum

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Why Denzel Should’ve Won; Or, How “Fences” Shatters Black Masculinity Myths

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3 Simple Tips to Make 2017 Not Suck…Without Resolutions

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The Aesthetic of Black Success Can Never Be Anti-Blackness

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50-Leven Other Ways to Lose Your Black Card Besides Putting Sugar In Grits

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An Incomplete List of All the Mofos Who BETTER NOT Sing on a Prince Tribute

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I Ate White People’s Collard Greens and It Tasted Like Oppression

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The Secret of Choosing Selfishness Over Sacrifice in Marriage

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Is the Phrase “I Don’t Need a Man” Really that Terrible?

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Peak Summer Blackness: An Evening of Watermelon, Crawfish, and UGK #BlackJoy

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I Turned Down a Higher-Paying Job to Follow My Heart

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Feb 26, 2019

10 Easy Steps I Take to Help Me Live My Best Life

By Dara in life, popular culture with no comments
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This post contains some links for products that were gifted to me by sponsors, but all opinions are my own.  It’s the end of February, so we’ve passed the socially acceptable timeframe for saying “Happy New Year” beyond January 1. By now, most of us are either in the thick of rocking our New Year’s resolutions or abandoning them. I discovered a while ago that if I didn’t make any NY resolutions, then I could skip the whole guilt-inducing steps of breaking them. But somehow I seem to have broken even that non-resolution. Without really meaning to I started a series of habits at the beginning…

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Feb 14, 2019

Why the KonMari Method Opens an Emotional Can of Worms

By Dara in life with no comments

In January, I peeked in on my husband watching Tidying Up with Marie Kondo on Netflix and I was immediately intrigued by the KonMari method. I’ve only watched the series (haven’t read the books) and it is exactly the kind of content that…

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Jan 28, 2019

On My Struggle to Honestly Treat the Labor of Motherhood as Work

By Dara in life, nonfiction writing with 4 comments

I am trying to teach my children what Work is. To my children, Work is a place you go, not something you do. They see their daddy go and return, cheering every day when his keys jangle in the doorway.…

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Aug 22, 2018

A Beautiful Surprise: The Baby Boy Who Was Meant to Be

By Dara in life, marriage, motherhood with 6 comments

Hey fam, long time no…anything! (I promise I haven’t forgotten about the blog, or about ya’ll!) I’ve been busy, to say the least. Much of this year has seen me preoccupied with shifts in my little family. My husband and…

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May 02, 2018

50+ Random Things You Didn’t Know You’d Spend Money on After You Buy a House

By Dara in life, money with 2 comments

It’s finally May, good people! And with the warmth of spring finally deigning to bless us, we’re in full-on home buying season around the country. In fact, my husband and I decided this year was a good time to buy…

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Apr 26, 2018

Warning: Struggle Love™ is Only Beautiful When Love Outlasts the Struggle

By Dara in blerd love, life, marriage, money with 3 comments

I am writing this on the first couch I bought after my first job post-college graduation. The taupe microfiber has worn away in certain spots to a threadbare black patch that will not disappear when I rub on it. I…

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Mar 16, 2018

For Better or for Worse, I Am Married to the Game(r)

By Dara in blerd love, life, popular culture with 2 comments

When I met my husband, S.M., in college 12 years ago, he was an avid gamer. Studying chemistry took up much of his time, but if he wasn’t hanging out with me or at the lab, he would stretch his…

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Feb 26, 2018

Review: “The Cooking Gene” Lovingly Charts the Way Home for Black Southern Cooks

By Dara in life with no comments

When I first picked up culinary historian Michael W. Twitty’s book, The Cooking Gene, I admit to feeling a little intimidated. My knowledge of Black Southern foodways and cultural traditions is markedly limited for reasons I have written about before. Furthermore, Twitty put…

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Jan 25, 2018

Unpopular Opinion: Why William is the Worst Character on “This Is Us”

By Dara in culture, life with 5 comments

So, I am a week into an intense binge-watching glut of the hit NBC dramedy This Is Us, which so many people have been raving about. I was mildly disinterested in seeing the show when it first debuted in 2016. I don’t…

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Dec 29, 2017

Finding the “Bright” Spot in a Dull Movie About Race and Police Brutality

By Dara in blerd love, culture, life with one comment

I went into watching Will Smith’s $90 million Netflix feature film, Bright, with no expectations and I believe it was for the best. If I had carried any hopes for the movie, any one of its many faults would have dashed…

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